Mental Health

Bad news comes in threes

My Dad’s health has had arthritis for years and it’s been getting worse. It is, all love to him, partly his fault because the doctor has offered solutions that he’s just not taken up. He’s been avoiding back surgery for at least 5 years. It’s gotten beyond that now. It’s fused vertebra in his back and he’s struggling to walk.

This past week, on seeing the doctor for further medication, he was given a prostate exam and they’ve found he has cancer. It’s early-stage, which is good news, but it also requires treatment that, because this is my Dad, is less good news. I’m hoping he can accept that he needs help.

My older sister is already receiving radiotherapy for a pre-cancerous lump in her breast. And now my other sister has found a lump under her eye which has also been diagnosed as cancer.

My Mum and Dad are retired, so while hospital treatment is thankfully free, all the additional expenses – walker, wheelchair and stair lift – have come out of their pocket. My other sister lives with them, which means that, depending on how severe her treatment will need to be, Mum will be carer for them both and she’s in her eighties.

Honestly, you could not make this shit up. And to top it all off, I’ve caught the nasty sore throat that’s going around, so I feel awful physically as well as mentally. I want to curl up in a corner and eat chocolate, but I also want to lose weight so I’m fitter. It’s a mental fight, and I’m not sure I’ve the strength for it.

One day at a time, I guess. One meal at a time if necessary. Props would be very greatly received.

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7 Comments

  1. So sorry to hear that this is all happening to you and your family. I hope your dad accepts the help he needs and that your sisters will be ok as well. Look after yourself.

    Nicola x

    1. Thank you

  2. I am so sorry, that sounds really hard. I think you can apply for a carers allowance in instances like this which might help go towards some of the costs? We’re looking at it for my grandad because he needs a lot of care at the moment.

    Sending good thoughts your way.

    1. Thank you.

  3. So sorry to hear things are tough for you right now. It sounds like you are going through a lot. I wish you and your family all the best and hope things get better for you soon. Take care lovely, and I hope your sore throat isn’t too bad. Sending you love and hugs <3 xx

    1. Thank you.

  4. I’m truly sorry to hear this – it must be an incredibly testing time for your family, and I hope you all come through it stronger. Both as individuals, and as a unit. Wishing you all the best. 💛

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